by Expert Amy Levine, M.A.

Whether you’re dating or hitched, sooner or later sex becomes routine for many couples.  The trick is to know how to bounce back when you’re bored, and to be proactive in bringing passion back to your relationship.

Nurture your body: Love the skin you’re in and your sex life will soar.  Having a healthy body image is totally obtainable.  Whether you want to admit it or not, you likely know what it takes to love yourself.  And, it all starts with shutting-off the negative voice in your head, and embracing all you have to offer.  To end the body-bashing thoughts: Focus on what you love about your body and flaunt it in the sack.

Boost your self-esteem: Feel like a million bucks and unleash your inner sex goddess.  Whether it’s a chic new accessory to boost your confidence when you’re flirting in the sun—like Shanghai Tang's sunglasses with “Double Carp” symbols invoking blissful romantic unions, red-hot lipstick like MAC’s Viva Glam to show off your gorgeous lips, or something to wear that makes you feel sexy—like lingerie from Victoria’s Secret or an outfit from your favorite designer, indulging yourself in the hottest material must-haves can do wonders to the way you feel. The real deal: There’s no denying that true self-esteem comes from within.  Yet, it’s no secret your inner sex goddess will thrive when you feel sexy.

Know your moan zones: Know how to please yourself, and tell your partner exactly what you want.  When you do you’ll increase your satisfaction on the spot.  Next time you’re having sex, tell him you need clitoral stimulation to climax—a necessity of most women to reach the Big “O.”  Identify your hot spots: Exploring your body during solo-sex sessions can help you identify your feel-good orgasmic triggers.

Encourage your partner to help around the house:  He can’t read your mind, so tell him you find it incredibly sexy when he helps you with the dishes, laundry and the other items on your to-do list.  Reap the rewards: The quicker chores get done, the more time you’ll have to get it on.  Besides, it really is a libido booster to know your partner wants to help you out and appreciates all you do.

Go out on a date: Set at least one day every week to connect with your lover.  You have a daily routine, and it gets old fast.  When you don’t break out of the rut, your sex life is sure to suffer.  The pleasure perk:  When you feel more in sync as couple, it leads to more satisfying sex. So, plan something you’ll both enjoy—whether it’s a night on the town or spending quality time on a Saturday. 

Think outside the bedroom: Scope out another place—besides the bed—for the magic to happen. When you’re home, initiate the action on the couch, in the shower, or the lawn chair in the backyard.  Or, when you’re in public find a spot that’s a little racy, but won’t get you arrested.  Be forewarned: Changing the location can make sex in bed seem boring.

Take a weekend getaway: A change of scenery—even if it’s just for a night—can get your sex life back on track.  So, what are you waiting for?  Take a road-trip to the nearest quaint town and stay at a B&B, or if need be book a local hotel room. Spice up your getaway sex session:  Indulge the senses with the Coco de Mer Weekend Kit.

Fool around: Intimacy doesn’t have to lead to intercourse. Make out and explore each other’s bodies like when you first met. The hidden treasure: When you experiment with sensual touch you’ll likely both discover amazing erogenous areas.

Fantasize: Physical stimulation is only half the equation—the rest is what’s going on in your head.  It’s pleasurable to focus on your partner and what you’re feeling.  Yet, it’s also completely natural to create mental images and scenarios that you find arousing.  The 0 to 60 factor:  The thoughts in your head can make or break or orgasmic ability.

Sex toys: Know what the buzz is about.  A vibrator is a great way to give you the clitoral stimulation you likely need to climax during intercourse.  Go online and pick out a toy together at Babeland or check out your local sex shop on a date.  A must have: The Form 6 by Jimmyjane . Unwrapping the sleek packaging is enough to lead to excitement.  Not to mention, it has 6 vibration modes and speeds, is waterproof, made of body safe materials, has a Lithium Ion battery with cordless charger, and intelligence to shut-off and lock--a must for the jet set lifestyle.  Both men and women can experience hours of pleasure with this beauty, whether it's used on the back or more intimate body parts.

© 2009 Amy Levine, www.sexedsolutions.com