OK, so I finished the Twilight series books. I have a question-- do you think that a love like Edward and Bella's is actually possible? The intensity, the burning hunger, etc...is it all a fairy tale we tell ourselves, or is this type of love just so rare?

Hmmm...

My husband and I have been really cutting back lately and I am starting to get a little down. I feel like we don't do ANYTHING anymore that requires $. No nice dinners, no shopping, petti's etc. I don't mind it too much personally but I feel like I am so boring and I just hope my husband remembers that I am a ton of fun and adventurous. Is anyone else experiencing this? Any ideas to put some fun back into our days without spending?

So one of my best friends is dating a new guy and he is 28 years old (she is 27), has a good job, goes to night classes (for a business degree) and overall seems like a nice guy so far. They have been dating for a little over a month... the other night they were out with his friends (a married couple) who asked if it was safe to assume that they were bf/gf...he got up and left the table to go to the bathroom immediately and was gone for a long time! My friend and I have analyzed this from every angle and I would love to know some other thoughts and opinions from others on why he reacted that way...

I can't decide where to live. If that sounds vague, then welcome to my life. Family is all far away, and my husband and I can really go anywhere, but we can't agree on a city. I wish someone could wake me up when this is all over! Does anyone have any insight?

So, my hubby and I have a HUGE point of contention. He does not want me to run a half marathon in Feb. I have been wanting to run this for a LONG time. He is concerned b/c I have had recent thyroid surgery and last year had a pulmonary embolism. I know that he is worried, but he states that I cannot run anything longer than a 10K "until I have been out of the hospital for one year" -- meaning no ER visits or surgeries (even though the recent surgery has nothing to do with running- the embolisms and thyroid nodule were NOT caused by me running!). I have tried to offer to him to come talk with my doctors (who are fine with me doing full marathons even- with proper training). I feel that he is very worried that I will hurt myself, or overexert myself, but this is an unfounded fear as my doctors have cleared me to run.
How should I deal with this? Should I give up my passion and just be OK with running 6-7 miles and not competing? I don't want to risk my marriage for running, but I feel very unhappy with the possibility that my husband gets to "control" whether I run marathons or do triathlons. I know he wants me to be able to do these things, but thinks that I am "broken"-- meaning that I have had a lot (medically) come up recently. I know that he has my health in mind, and that he isn't being like this "just because", but I am at a loss.
So what is a wife to do?

I have been dating this guy for 4 years, and living with him for the past 3 years. We are renting a house together (with another person) and have a dog. But, I don't feel like our relationship is really going anywhere. My feelings toward him have changed and I just don't see a future together. Any advise on the best way to break it off while we currently sharing living space and a dog? Anyone been in a similar problem and can share some input? Thanks!

An encounter I had a week ago in Hanalei.......Magical

He came around the corner
Striding towards me Big and Strong
His Head meant for a Crown.
He Caught me
Grabbed me
straight away with his Eyes.
I demurred not wanting to stare
or feel his masculine aura
be in thrall to his Kundi Snake.
Feeling a Tribal connection
DNA Flash Recognition
In that moment
We the Black Irish
paid homage
at the Sacred Well of St.Bridget.
I have been long asking for the King
and will not wait much longer.
If he does not appear and Reign
I will play his part as well.
Disappearing into the social throng
He sat at the Sushi bar
the canvas of my back his only clue.
Waving my hands
Orchestrating the Love of Merriment
Uber Man must have thought me mad.
Electric charge savaging the space between us
He Stole a look as I floated by
face nestled in his sons hair
the smell of progeny.
I loved him before
now even more
for that........
Walking away again
from a chance to encounter
Never more never more.
There was the orange shirt of his Hawaiian friend.
Standing by watching his three sons frolic by the river
It was him again
Pierce Brosnan, James Bond, Remington Steele
Defender of Suave and Debonair,
Dearly Devoted Husband and Father,
An Irresistible International Irishman
and all the rest in his Magic Bag
peering out of those amazing eyes.
Strolling by knowing he was looking at my Bum,
007 whose hands have been on the finest asses on the Planet,
I could feel the heat of his smile!
Suddenly one of his son's lands at my feet
I do a smiling matador move
Proof of my Awareness
Marched
Straight to the car
pulled out my card
Hesitated
Celibate Pussy don't fail me now.....
Around the bend he came
Wearing his Fame
like a cashmere sweater
draped casually
over his shoulders.
Swinging takeout he laughingly said "Pierce Brosnan" mimicking some fan
or maybe himself.
I met him on the Path
a dance move of timing
and perfect synchronization.
An iridescent bubble of time magic embraced us.
Extending my heart and my card I could not look him in the eyes.
My orbital balance would have spun completely out of control.
"Pierce I would be remiss if I did not do this."
He replied mischievously "What are you going to do?"
I take care of Luxury Homes, Children and
Fabulous People!"
"Hummm Theresa Sophia Breedlove......."
"BREEDLOVE"
"Yes and I did not make it up!"
Groan what was I thinking!
No Thinking just BLISS
fairly dancing in the parking lot.
Our Energy fiery and Splendid
Voices Rich with Resonance
Blending and Teasing
Flirting Spiced with a Promise of Fun.
Looking me up and down he proclaimed "You look GREAT" with such lovely enthusiasm.
Our pheromones were doing a Cosmic Irish Jig.
I look down at myself just to make sure.
The spinning of our lives pulling us apart too soon
I waver in the maelstrom.
"Maybe we will meet up again in town?"
As I turned away from him
got into the car
I purred "You Never Know".
Leaving the parking lot with the windows rolled down
Van Morrison wailing in the background
I never looked back
at the Man or the Fantasy.
007 looked
oh yea he looked......


Breedlove

Summer 2009

Kauai

What do you think of them divorcing

I love the playboy poll question, which makes me think... if you feel confident about yourself, why not pose for playboy? If you don't have to show everyone everything and keep it classy then why not. Playboy is known for being sexy and classy.

My BF and I have been together for 2 years. Before that I was in a relationship with someone much older (15 years) than me and we lived together. When we split I moved home and I still live there. Recently I have suggested moving in with my current BF and he is saying he doesn't want to move out until his student loans are paid off which will be in 3 or 4 years. I don't want to wait that long I am 27 and he is 26, I want to move in, eventually get married and have kids, I don't want to wait 3-4 years to take a first step. Am I being unreasonable?

When I met my husband I had a chihuahua. I had him for 5 years to myself and spoiled him sooo much. Now that we are all together under one roof I can't tell you how many arguments we have because of my dog. I love him but my husband, not so much. It really hurts my feelings and he knows this so he tries to love him but it's forced. Any one have any advice for me?

My husband and I have started a new thing where once a month, we will compile a list of things that we absolutely love about each other, and the things that we can’t stand about each other, and we’ll make a date, and sit down and talk about them all. It’s really helped us to communicate more, and to make each other aware of some our good habits and also our not-so-good habits. I think it gives you an opportunity to say things to each other that you never would have otherwise felt comfortable saying.

Is it bad that I’m a creature of habit and that I like the same position all the time? My husband kind of likes to change it up but I really like the same thing all the time. I guess I should try to be more adventurous but a lot of positions don’t really feel that good to me. Is that me being selfish? I hope not, cause I do want to make him happy but I also want to be happy when it comes to sex.

I’m finding lately that I literally have no time to have sex with my husband. It’s like we’re both so busy that by the time we sit down together at the end of a long day, we are both physically exhausted and we just don’t have the energy. Is this bad? Should I be worried about my marriage? I guess it’s part of life, and you have to learn to find time for the things that are important.